There are so many ways that otherwise good people mess up what could be healthy relationships. And many of the things guys do wrong in relationships come from a simple lack of awareness of how women process feelings and information. Believe me, hear about them all, and most of them fit into just a few key categories.
Here are the 10 mistakes most men make that instantly ruins their relationships: (Take a note of all these and always avoid making these mistakes if you want a happy and healthy relationship)
1. Talking To Your Ex-Girlfriend
Talking or seeing your ex is one of the biggest mistakes that you can make as a dude when it comes to a new relationship. Stop talking to your ex if you expect this new relationship to work out.2. Comparing Your Ex To Your Girlfriend
Don't ever compare your current to your ex. You can think it but don't ever let it come out of your mouth.3. Lack of Trust
Without trust, there is no relationship, whether they don't trust you or you don't trust them. If you feel the need to stalk and to look through her phone when she is in the shower or hack into her email, Facebook account and if there is a reason why the trust was broken then a lot of times that relationship is over and needs to end because if you have done something really bad or she's done something really bad that makes you always worry and be jealous and do weird things, it is no place to live.Guys, you should be with somebody that not only you love and trust but is also reciprocal. They have got to trust you too.
4. Refusal To Commit
No girl is going to wait that long on you to figure it out. It's an insult that you have to take that long to decide if she is worth your time or not. Often times what we have got is amazing but as a dude, you are not ready to commit because you are concerned that something better may come along. By doing so, you'll also end up losing the best and by the time you realise your mistake, she'll be long gone.5. Lack of Continuation
After getting the girl nothing will kill a relationship faster than complacency and laziness. We have got to continue to put in the time, energy and effort that it took in order to get that person to fall in love with you.6. Lack of Words of Affirmation
When we first start dating, we give compliments all the time but as we get comfortable, a lot of times that stops. You got to keep it going. The beautiful thing about compliments is that they are free. It doesn't take a lot of planning. So give her a compliment whenever you can, whether it's about her dress, hair, food or perfume, it doesn't matter as long as it's a good compliment.7. Not Considering Her Feelings
When you make decisions, you have to think about her. Now, it doesn't mean that you need to always butter her up, instead, you just need to consider how she would feel if you do or say certain things.8. Taking Off in Confrontation
Instead of walking off when you have a confrontation with your girlfriend, you should address it with them because going to the bar is not going to solve your problems in your relationship. Communication is the key.But there are also times when it's best to just separate and decompress. Sometimes it just takes a little time and a little space and decompression to solve the things. It really depends on you, your relationship and how you guys communicate together.
9. Can't Do Laundry
It is loosely translated into help in the house. So this is one of the biggest relationship strainers out there in terms of living together in cohabitation. A lot of times guys will expect or want the woman to do a lot of the housework i.e. dishes, laundry and cleaning. When the truth is, it is both person's responsibility. If you want to automatically be viewed as a charming and attractive person, help around the house.10. Emotionally Cheating
This is the biggest issue that I see a lot of people are dealing with. There are absolutely zero excuses to cheat. If you are not happy, get out of the relationship and don't make excuses.If you don't put yourself in those compromising situations such as if you don't go out, get drunk and do stupid things. If you are not having those flirtatious conversations with women and you are shutting it down as soon as it starts, you don't have anything to worry about. It's when you allow it to continue and perpetuate. One of the reasons why a lot of people do fall prey to this is because it feels good to be attractive and it feels good when people want you. But in the long run, it won't benefit you. So always be loyal to your partner.
Be with someone who motivates you to do better in life because relationships are more than just falling in love. It's about inspiring each other to become better versions of yourself day in and day out.
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